Unconditional yet so conditioned love

How often do you throw the word "love" out their to anybody?  But wait right there, do you really mean it?

We say we love our parents, friends, siblings, romantic partner, pet, etc etc.
Will you really love your parents if they weren't fulfilling your needs?  How many friends are there with whom you are just because of some need or greed. Will you still love them even if they stopped doing what they do? 

Many parents too are just growing the child in a way where he/she is confined to believe them no matter what(Thankfully, i am so blessed in this area).  Society doesn't want people who think for themselves ,so often times work their best to condition it's people in such a way that's useful to them by giving it a name of love. 

Someone once asked me the reason, why do i love that person?  I had none (and that is the same reason i now know i really did love that person, for i was ready to accept, change what matters, grow, stick).  And i went like, what about you?  I got a whole fucking list. And now i know why that thing didn't work. Because you don't find reasons when you love someone, you just do. What if your reasons get changed?  Or you found someone better suitable in that long list of reasons of yours. Also, some people's definition of love has no compatibility same as the differences between people's love language. Like they say- love is the universal language, i feel philosophically love has only one language that is true bliss through freedom. That's so true, for even in my friendships there had never been a point when any of us were being dependent or doing any crazy ass shit thing like manipulative controlling. That's so not love, just a way of escaping or false validation through fakeness. 

Truth is many people really think they love someone but only the person they love is themselves.Their flawless public facade masks private despair.Like, really think ! Otherwise why do parents force their child or why does your better half orders you what to do or not. 

Fear ,revenge ,jealousy, control and bad shit like that ain't love. It's just a way of fooling your own self into a trap from which it would just be so hard to come out later on and many people just settle.

You can't really live whole of your life being pretentious. 

LOVE IS FREEDOM, TRUST, MUTUAL RESPECT, CONSISTENCY AND EVERYTHING ELSE IS JUST A BY- PRODUCT.
There will not be sunshine all the time. No matter what, you will suffer for that's life and all the negatives are actually too good for growth. Emotions are feedback. You just have to choose whom to suffer with, who'll  be trustworthy, consistent, caring , loving and will help you heal; then just reciprocate. Choose who matter to you and to whom you matter.
Anything needs time to grow. Understanding and acceptance is needed.

Be complete and find someone who is complete then just grow together. Healthy mature non-toxic relationships have something's in common i.e. open communication, understanding, trust, loyalty, respect, honesty and taking responsibility of them by their ownselves first; anything else is fake and eventually will turn toxic.

No one has ever experienced the true bliss of this wonderful feeling with games played. It isn't a competition, the person you love ain't no price.You can't always perceive everything according to you and expect. If you love them you just do even if you have them by your side or not.

So, now just go! Tell whosoever you feel truly loves you; your friends, family, pet, you?  Anything or anyone. Show them they matter.

I rise in love daily;  in love with me, nature, food, friends, family, friends(tv show) hahaha...  You can be grateful for many little things in life. So, be and live fully. Better allow the love and life to happen, experience.